A lot has been said about dating your ex partners. It rarely works. Moreover, former partners often even have troubles maintaining some kind of friendship, not to say romantic relationships. Nevertheless, for some couples breaking up feels more like a temporary separation, though nobody plans breaking up and getting back together. Things usually happen spontaneously and are way too complex to allow full understanding. Perhaps, it is possible to get back together and start anew. Perhaps, not and its better to forget ordering yourself online brides and being done with it all. It’s all subjective and depends on an individual. Read the following to know all about getting back to your ex.
Same Issues All Over Again
The most obvious thing is that you broke up with your ex for a reason. You might not know the reasons but it is certain that there is something that caused your breakup. A breakup usually happens when there is a problem that cannot be handled otherwise. Getting back together after a breakup means facing the same problem again, though, now in hope of dealing with it. Nevertheless, a problem that caused breakup should be handled. Otherwise, you risk of going through the same breakup again. It may be better not to start a relationship with your ex again with the unresolved issues and no solution. It’d be a waste of your emotional energy and time.
Baggage
There always will be a memory of your breakup. A new relationship cannot undo the old relationship. And people find it easier to avoid each other afterwards for a reason. The image of a person, not to say real physical presence nearby, causes painful memories that depress you. Thus, dating your ex means constantly trying to ignore the fact that you’re with the same person who caused you pain or to whom you have caused pain. Because, essentially, most of the failed relationship have the offended side and the side that offends. Similarly, there’s always the one who initiates breakup and the one who has no other choice but to agree.
One and Only
The most common and widely used argument for getting back to your ex is that your ex is (or may be) “the one and only” meaning single eternal love of your life. Though it might sound naïve, one cannot possibly have anything against this notion. This is a beautiful dream even if it is too sentimental. There are many great couple who work hard on their relationship and stay together despite struggles. For some a relationship can become a cage but for others being together despite anything is better than a break up caused by problems, even serious ones. Those who get back to their ex-lovers are, perhaps, romantics by nature because they have faith. All rational thinking arguments suggest to not repeat the same mistake twice but a failed relationship is not a mistake as long as it provides the experience. And those who have faith are lucky ones because they sustain the notion of romantic love.
Taking the Chance
Try it even if it’s not going to work. At least you’re going to be able to say that you tried. An attempt is never a mistake. If you have enough faith, it’s going to work. With no faith you wouldn’t want to do it yourself. There’s always a chance and because another person is involved you should consider every possibility. People get together for a reason. But they part ways for a reason as well. Get back if you have something to get back to, have something to fight for. Leave if there’s no such thing. And make your partner understand.
Well, now you know the pros and cons of getting back together. It will bring back the old problems that can make you mad. It also comes with emotional baggage that is going to slow you down. But it is worth the risk if your partner is the one and only.
